My son, Buddy has gone now.

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Andy DePaule
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My son, Buddy has gone now.

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My son, Buddy has gone now.
He was just here in Saigon for a two week visit with my 8 year old grandson and left Thursday to go back to Oregon.
He was feeling so happy and positive about the future and then this morning, just 48 hours later I got the news he is gone at age 34.
This is the saddest time in my life. We never expect our children to die before us.
Hope there really is a hereafter? Will miss his huge smile and good humor.
Just can't stop the tears when I think of him.
The picture was taken just a week ago.

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Tony Glassman
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Post by Tony Glassman »

Andy.....so sorry to hear that. You have my deepest condolences and thoughts.
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Post by Joe Krumel »

So sorry.
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Post by William Morgan III »

Andy, I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.
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Post by Bill Sinclair »

Andy, my heart goes out to you, your precious grandson and everyone touched by this loss. May Buddy rest in peace.
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Post by Brooks Montgomery »

Oh man, I am so sorry. Although I am a complete stranger, I always look forward to your interesting posts, and your very interesting life, and musical background. I’m so sorry to see you now posting in Gone Home and so so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry, Andy. I can't imagine that pain... Peace to you.
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Post by Jerry Van Hoose »

Andy, I’m so very sorry to hear about the loss of your son. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Post by Rick Barnhart »

Very sorry to hear this, Andy. Having just lost my dad, I know the pain and sadness you must feel. May the passing of time and recollection of fond memories help you find comfort and peace.
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Oh Andy... my heart stood still when I read your post. As parents, we hope to never know that kind of pain. I am praying for you and your family at this very difficult time. God bless you.
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Post by Jim Bloomfield »

Very sorry, prayers for you and your family...
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Post by Bob Muller »

Andy,
Kathy and I are so sorry to hear about your son, Buddy's passing. We met Buddy when Kathy and I bought inlays from him. He was such a great kid. We can't even imagine the pain you are going through right now. If there is anything we can do to help or support you and your family please let us know. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

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Andy DePaule
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Thank you to all.

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Thank you to all for the kind thoughts.
I'll be flying back to Oregon this afternoon.
Not quite sure what then?
His other brothers and sister are also coming from Minnesota, California, Colorado and Texas.
We will have a family get together and decide.

His mother in Oregon want's to bring him back to Viet Nam to be buried next to his grandparents.
He had gone to visit their family grave site in the Mekong Delta last week.
When he found it dirty he spent some hours cleaning it up for them.
Maybe that is a suitable place. His mother also wants to be buried there when her time comes.
It's the only photo from dozens of his time here where he was not smiling.

We named him after the big E, Seems not so long ago.... I just feel kind of numb now.

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Post by Mike Neer »

Oh Andy, so so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Paul Wade »

Andy
So sorry for your lost. I just lost my mother in law
Yesterday. I will send prayers

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Post by Carl Williams »

My condolences Andy...Carl
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Post by Bob Littleton »

Andy, I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling. What a loss. Our condolences to your whole family.
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Post by Godfrey Arthur »

Godspeed Buddy!

Andy I'm emotional over your loss!

Really sorry to hear this from you!

Strength and resiliency be yours!

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Really sorry for your family
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Post by Jim Newberry »

Andy, that’s very sad news. My thoughts are with you and the family.
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Post by Chris Boyd »

My heart goes out to you Andy...I simply cannot grasp losing a son or daughter...kindness and strength to you and your family....
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I feel very sorry for you Andy.
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Post by Dennis Brion »

Prayers to you Andy, I have for kids and nine grandchildren i could not even imagine your pain, God bless you with strength!
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So sorry for your loss, Andy, hang in there, prayers going out for you in your time of grief.
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Andy DePaule
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Thanks to all of you.

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Thanks to all of you.
I have to start packing a bag. My flight back to Oregon is in just a few hours.
When the whole family is together again we will decide what to do.
Not the kind of thing we plan for.
God bless you all,
Andy
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